Kli and light

October 9, 2016 at 9:02 AM
Vegan asked 3 years ago

I met a guy who telling me that he is a king that he can marry me and beaide that he is allowed to go and be with other woman. He says this is a good way to keep the marrige alife. He tell me that many married men do this behind thier wifes back. I left this guy but I wonder what is this case looke like if Rabbi explane it in kli and light terms. How does he reject the life? He love women. But how does he use this love? 
Kan you explane how to build a kli for marrige(grow spritualy together, do mitsvot and help people, good sex,have fun together,good kids who do as Torah says, love, care for each other)
And how to fill it with light?

1 Answers
Rabbi Alon Anava answered 2 years ago


I am sorry, but I have never heard of such nonsense. No one is a king besides Mashiach. He sounds like a crazy person trying to take advantage of you. It is forbidden for a married man to have relations with other women. It has nothing to do with Kli and light. Such behavior will only damage and kli that can possibly exist.

The only way to create a Kli for marriage is to follow the Torah, have love and respect to each other, honesty and a lot of patience and a very good guide that help build a connection between the couple. Of course there is much more to know in order to build a healthy marriage. You can search for this topic on this website and find a few good lectures about it. One lecture that can give you good information can be found on this page or Click here to see it

Wishing you great success and happiness
Alon Anava